Thank You Note from an 8-Year Old

For a long time I’ve had a thank you note on my bulletin board.  It’s fading so much you can barely read it.  I thought I should record it for posterity because it worth remembering.  She made it on her own while I was meeting with her mom and dad next door.  She gave it […]

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Why Your Marriage May Need More Then Self Help

How many times have I heard people say, “We don’t need a therapist.  We can figure out our problems on our own.”  There’s a certain amount of embarrassment to people about seeking advice about something that seems on the surface so easy.  Or maybe they fear the therapist is going to point fingers at them?  […]

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Pick-Me-Up: Rising Above Your Problems: Deflategate and the Chaplain Who Cares

Regardless who you cheered for in the recent Super Bowl game the video above (story is here) is an encouraging story.  It turns out the only NFL team with a full-time chaplain is the New England Patriots and his presence is not just in a private service for ten players on Saturday. He’s a very […]

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Can Marriage Therapists Present a Point of View?

This is another blog in a series from old things I’m finding cleaning out files…past due, no doubt (click Here for the others).  The quote below is left over from my dissertation back in my Ph.D. studies at Iowa State in the 1990’s!  YIKES!  In any case, the section is from an actual interview with […]

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A Simple Secret of a Happy Marriage

Another one of those tidbits I found rummaging through my files (Click Here to see the all).  Again, who knows where it came from?  In any case, it’s not only cute, but profound.  We all should have a list like this! Sheila’s List Sheila and I just celebrated our thirtieth wedding anniversary. Somebody asked her, […]

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Love Tips from Kids

Another cute bit I found in going through old files (see Here for the others).  Sorry, I have no idea of the source.  Maybe we’ve forgotten how simple true love is? WHAT IS THE PROPER AGE TO GET MARRIED?? “Eighty-four, Because at that age, you don’t have to work anymore, and you can spend all […]

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Divorce Through the Eyes of a Child

Lately I’ve been going through some old files (click Here to see them all) and found this original poem of a girl who won a poetry contest for children ages 9-13 in the State of New Jersey.  I’m sorry I can’t tell you more than that and give credit where credit is due.  When people […]

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Heart to Heart Is Looking for New Therapists!

  Due to more people wanting our services, we are happy to announce we are looking for 2 competent part-time counselors (to the right person could become full-time) for the Des Monies (Urbandale) and Ames, IA area. Send us your resume, a cover letter and a 2-3 page essay pointing out how your training, therapy […]

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New Year’s Resolution: Downsize Your Space; Upsize Your Life

Sometimes I think our clamor for all things wonderful has led to the demise of marital contentment. Couples come to see me stressed to the hilt, with no possible solution in site except to continue to pay student loan debt for the next 25 or even more years, both of them working crazy schedules, rarely […]

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17 Attitude Adjustments This Holiday Season

It’s that time of year when all the ads for material things, all the desire for material things and all the frantic scurrying around for material things seem to take over our lives.  Slogans flood the airwaves and through our minds, dominating our thinking which, unfortunately can easily dominate our desires and our attitudes and […]

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