Part Four: Dating and Vacation Ideas in Summer: Planning VS Spontaneous; Resurrecting a Rainy Day

One of the main reasons I became a marriage therapist is because my marriage is one of the things I’m best at!  In thinking through my gifts and abilities and what do I have to offer the world, I kept coming back to the simple truth that my marriage was one of the best blessings […]

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Part Three: Dating and Vacation Ideas in Summer: Planning VS Spontaneous; Example: Volga River and Decorah, Iowa

On an earlier blog this summer I posted about planning your vacations to be spontaneous.  This takes the planning spouse and the spontaneous, go-with-the-flow spouses’ strengths into consideration.  Vacation is a time to reconnect, to chill, to replenish your spirit, create memories, have unique experiences, and have many moments of “ahhh”.  Ahhh as in relax […]

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The Real Tragedy of the Supreme Court’s Blasphemy About Marriage

Other than 9/11, the saddest moment in my adult life was seeing the other day the White House festively, triumphantly, lit in rainbow colors, like the President of the United States was give God the finger in a huge mocking way.  Psalm 2 came immediately to mind.  I shudder to think our blatant disregard for […]

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Part Two: Dating and Vacation Ideas in Summer: Planning Vs Spontaneous

Over and over I’ve heard couples say about each other, “We’re not compatible.  One of us is spontaneous and the other likes to plan.  Those two just don’t get along.  We’re just so different.”  Well, hello!  Yes, we are different.  This would be a good thing!  Nevertheless this idea that “We’re not compatible” is a […]

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Part One: Dating and Vacation Ideas in Summer: Road Trip In Iowa: Planning vs Spontaneous

Now that the weather has warmed up it’s time to get out and about and experience your area, wherever you live.  For generations now couples and families have taken weekend road trips in their car or motorcycle as a way to relax and spend time together.  I remember as a child riding in the backseat […]

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Dr. Bing Signs “Pledge in Solidarity to Defend Marriage”

At the risk of someday losing my license because I do not believe two men or two women can be married as there is no way for them to be “joined”, I have signed the “Pledge in Solidarity to Defend Marriage”, which can be found here: http://defendmarriage.org/pledge-in-solidarity-to-defend-marriage.  Signers agree they will stand in solidarity against […]

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The Number One Thing Children Need: A Mom and Dad Who Love Each Other

Finally, I found a blog online with which I agree.  A mom, who’s a blogger, wrote she loves her husband more than her children. Whoa?!  Really. Yes and Yes. Most people error the other way.  They love their kids more than their spouse.  This tells the children the children are the priority and the other […]

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Thank You Note from an 8-Year Old

For a long time I’ve had a thank you note on my bulletin board.  It’s fading so much you can barely read it.  I thought I should record it for posterity because it worth remembering.  She made it on her own while I was meeting with her mom and dad next door.  She gave it […]

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Why Your Marriage May Need More Then Self Help

How many times have I heard people say, “We don’t need a therapist.  We can figure out our problems on our own.”  There’s a certain amount of embarrassment to people about seeking advice about something that seems on the surface so easy.  Or maybe they fear the therapist is going to point fingers at them?  […]

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Pick-Me-Up: Rising Above Your Problems: Deflategate and the Chaplain Who Cares

Regardless who you cheered for in the recent Super Bowl game the video above (story is here) is an encouraging story.  It turns out the only NFL team with a full-time chaplain is the New England Patriots and his presence is not just in a private service for ten players on Saturday. He’s a very […]

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