Ask Dr. Bing Podcast #5: What If We Disagree About Texting Others?
Welcome to the 5th Ask Dr. Bing Podcast. I finally figured out how to use the microphone for this deal and as a result, the quality of this podcast is much better than the previous four. In addition, I’m starting to receive some questions from listeners, clients, friends and blog readers and that helps the structure of the podcast and also makes it easier to produce.
My thanks goes out to my son, Marty, who coached my on the Intro. I was a little stilted on previous podcasts and he suggested I lighten up and talk it rather than read it. I think the intro is much better now.
This is a work in progress. It gets easier as I get the hang of the technical side. I also have to get used to talking 40 minutes straight. I used to do that years ago when I was a pastor, usually several times a week. But I haven’t done that for a while. Hopefully, these will improve as we go. Thanks for your patience.
I tackle three questions today. In the first about “What if we disagree about texting others?” is a follow up to the previous podcast about sexting. Texting is a tamed down version of sexting, but it still leads to trouble if we don’t keep appropriate boundaries. We’re all vulnerable to temptation. Why tempt yourself? Life is hard enough already. I look at the arguments people use to justify texting others of the opposite sex while they are married and give another view.
The second question asks about what to do if a person feels they are giving and giving and giving to their spouse and seemingly get nothing in return. It’s too easier in our impatient society to give up. I suggest some ways to look at this issue. I refer to a book, called The 5 Love Languages. You can click on the title of the book for more information. If you haven’t read that book it needs to be on your ASAP list. Mary Sue and I read this book after our first year of marriage and it helped us tremendously. It’s still in print and is a marriage classic all couples must read.
The third question asks about healing after discovering one’s spouse has had an affair. When someone finds this out for the first time it is pretty traumatic and feels like the despair and heartache will never end. But I explain there is healing for couples as long as the affair is over and the couple can talk about it alone and with a professional to work through the pain and introduce the couple to being forthright with each other going forward. Many couples come out stronger after an affair if it’s handled right.
This week my wife, Mary Sue, and I, celebrate our 36 wedding anniversary. I give a tribute to her on my podcast around minute 4. I invite you to listen to that. I say one of the main reasons I’m working with couples is because of the great relationship that we have.