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The Real Tragedy of the Supreme Court’s Blasphemy About Marriage

Other than 9/11, the saddest moment in my adult life was seeing the other day the White House festively, triumphantly, lit in rainbow colors, like the President of the United States was give God the finger in a huge mocking way.  Psalm 2 came immediately to mind.  I shudder to think our blatant disregard for God’s created order:

Why do the heathen rage, and the people imagine a vain thing?  The kings of the earth set themselves, and the rulers take counsel together, against the Lord, and against his anointed, saying,  Let us break their bands asunder, and cast away their cords from us.

The Supreme Court’s public mockery of the historic definition of marriage has instituted immorality and perversion as normal and something to be pursued and desired.  The purpose of law in nations is fundamentally to protect the people and to educate them in behavior that maintains order and peace.  We have laws for speeding so people will normally drive at a speed that keeps people from dying.  Even if you disagree with the speed laws most of the time you obey them within reason and tragic accidents are minimized.  Don’t drink and drive is not just a slogan.  It’s taught by the government as a way of life.  The government makes laws and promotes them.  They will be promoting perversion as normal now.

Oh, ah…is it a sin to call this proclaimed lifestyle a sin?  Dare I say “perversion?”  I have to explain myself?  Okay.  You can’t start a car by hooking another car’s battery up to the other car’s muffler.  You can’t screw two bolts together.  You can weld them, but then they’d be in bondage.  The two men or two woman lifestyle is not freedom.  It is NOT cool.  It is a road to bondage, full of heartache and sorrow.  You can tell yourself it is fine all you want.  It doesn’t change the reality of it.  You can throw laws at it.  That doesn’t change human nature.

Many are suggesting the big affront of  the Supreme Court’s decision to normalize perversion is that it will lead to persecution of those who don’t embrace the new immorality as moral.  The loss of religious liberty will certainly be one of the first pins to fall in this wild abandonment of the blessing of marriage between a man and a woman. But that’s to be expected.  Through much tribulation do you enter into the kingdom of heaven.  Persecution is part of the calling.  The eastern world is embracing violence and the western world is embracing perversion and in both ends of the earth Christians who call upon people to love one another (the opposite of violence) and to humbly bow before the Father of Lights and to fear the Lord and shun evil (the opposite of same-sex perversion) will be persecuted as sport before this is all over.  Light and darkness don’t mix.  You can’t have it both ways.  The loss of religious liberty has been the clarion call of the opposition and while I agree with it, I’m saddened we’d be so self-absorbed that this would be our number one public concern.  It makes us seem trivial and self-absorbed just like the folk who say we need laws to institutionalize perversion to reduce the persecution of those who embrace perversion as a life-style.  We are all myopic and short-sighted.

The real tragedy of our White House lighted in rainbow colors is we are publicly popularizing a life-style that is anything but gay and invites people to death, leading innocent children down portals of hell and telling them it’s cool and awesome.  Just in the last week I had a teacher tell me many teenage girls in her high school are all aglow about this doorway to death and are pretending they are one of these people even though they are clearly not.  It’s all the rage, you see.  I had a parent who is a faithful Christian and whose daughter was just confirmed tell me his daughters both think this lifestyle is cool.  Where did they get this notion?  Our society is screaming louder than our consciences.  Perversion is winning the public relations battle.  I agree with theologian and pastor John Piper on this point:

We weep over our sins.  We don’t celebrate them. We don’t institutionalize them.

Our government, rather than promoting upright, moral behavior to help the public more easily fight the myriad temptations that everyone of us faces, is telling us to abandon our consciences to fight immorality and to embrace it instead.  The real tragedy in all of this is the next generation of children who will be taught in our schools and it will be blasted from the mountain tops there is no difference between gender, there is no difference between right and wrong, unless you say wrong is wrong.  The real tragedy is children will be taught that both ends of the chicken are wonderful and just because a donkey has 4 legs that it is a horse.  Evil is normalized, good will be silenced and broken hearts and lives will be the result.  There is a way that seems right to a society, but the ends thereof are the ways of death.

The real tragedy will be the innocent making these lifestyle decisions only to discover it leads to their own emotional and spiritual degradation and fear and panic and anxiety and depression and self-destruction and selfishness and despair will be their result.  As long as I’m able to practice there will be a lot of folk who will come to see me because I will be one of the few who will publicly say I won’t tell you to embrace the evil thoughts of your heart, but instead I will tell you to fight them.  I will tell you how to fight them.  I will tell you how to get your dignity back and to hold your head high, not because the modern day prophets and priests and judges have declared anything goes but because you willingly fight the temptation to throw your life down the toilet and decide to live a life of integrity instead.

Along with Jesus I declare to the Judges of the Supreme Court of the United States of America and the President of the United States:

But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.  Matthew 18:6

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