“Change and loss travel together.”
Lori Gottlieb, (2019), Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
People usually don’t think about going to counseling until they reach a point where something seems out of control or unmanageable. For a lot of us, it is the loss of something: loss of your innocence or the innocence of your spouse or other loved one, the loss of a relationship, the loss of a job, the loss of your dignity, the loss of your spouse’s dignity, the loss of your inner peace, just to name a few. Throw in crime and tragedy and addictions and odd proclivities and breakups and fires and being fired and all of a sudden you are in the middle of a storm-tossed sea, having feelings you can’t make sense of and fears that seem more menacing than before. Then the thought occurs: maybe I should get some insight into this from an impartial observer?
You talk to your spouse or dad or mom or trusted friend or even your pastor or priest, but maybe they aren’t impartial enough. Or perhaps you want to unload your concerns more than once or explore another angle or you want to make sure the advice you are given is coming from, you know, a well with water you can actually drink. In addition you don’t want to be a burden or to create problems with your loved ones and friends. Meanwhile your distress and discomfort and fear or sadness lingers and doesn’t seem to want to leave, and what-do-you-do?
That’s where we come in. We don’t just listen. We give out road maps. We can’t make you take the journey, but we can point things out. We can mention other people who have gone through the same thing and this is what they did or didn’t work and this is why it worked. Others have done this and this or didn’t do this and this and this is why it didn’t work. You can try it on for size, or not. But the ideas won’t be an option unless you know about them!
Meanwhile, the reality is, if you didn’t have this loss, you wouldn’t be motivated to make this change and actually this change, whatever it is, might be the biggest blessing that’s ever come your way. You just might not know it yet. That doesn’t mean it’s not there.
It might be worth a look.