A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones. Proverbs 12:4 You hear these statistics all the time that women are much more likely to divorce than men, meaning that women are the ones who file. They are the ones that are more likely to [...]
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Boring Integrity
Do not let me be ashamed, for I take refuge in You. Let integrity and uprightness preserve me, For I wait for You. Psalm 25:20-21 (NASB) If you’ve read a few of my blogs, by now you’ve noted I’ve written about boundaries several times. I’m using the term slightly different here than you’ll read about [...]
Returning Evil for Evil? Or Not
You meant evil against me; but God meant it for good. Joseph to his Brothers (Genesis 50:20; NKJV) This is another of those verses that I use as the foundation of my therapy practice. It helps to have a working model in my head. I don’t just sit there and say, “A-ah. You poor thing.” [...]
Relationship Laziness
How long will you lie there, you sluggard? When will you get up from your sleep? A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest- and poverty will come on you like a bandit and scarcity like an armed man. Proverbs 6:9-11 One of the saddest things I hear as [...]
Flux in Stepfamilies
Do not move an ancient boundary stone set up by your forefathers. Proverbs 22:28 As the verse above says, sometimes change comes too quickly. Certain things are to be left alone. In stepfamilies, boundaries are in flux and awkward. It doesn’t take long for people who are divorced or widowed with children to discover that [...]
The Prison of Happiness
He holds victory in store for the upright, he is a shield to those whose walk is blameless, for he guards the course of the just and protects the way of his faithful ones. Proverbs 2:7-8 I just want to be happy. Too many clients God bless America, but instead of having the “pursuit of [...]
She Done Good
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:12 If you’ve read a few of these little ditties I’ve written on this blog, then by now you know that I’ve been reading the chapter of Proverbs that corresponds with the day of the month for years now. Not every day. [...]
The Confusion of Anger
As churning the milk produces butter, And as twisting the nose produces blood, So stirring up anger produces strife. Proverbs 30:33 Be angry and sin not.∗ King David and The Apostle Paul Anger is a pretty devious thing. It starts out fine. As King David and the Apostle Paul say above, anger has a good [...]
He’d Never Go to Marriage Counseling
The prudent see danger and take refuge, But the simple keep going and suffer for it. Proverbs 27:12 I’ve been after him to go to counseling for years. He said counseling was for sissies, And a waste of money, And quit your complaining. I’m not gonna tell my problems to some stranger. Now he wants [...]
A Respectable Man
A man’s love for a woman helps to perfect his own character.* Waller R. Newell The wife must see to it that she respects her husband.+ Apostle Paul Over the years I’ve talked to hundreds of men about their relationships, both with guys alone in my therapy office and when they come with their wives. [...]
