What if one of us (or both) has had an affair?
Affairs are one of the most common problems we see in marital therapy. It is very difficult to handle alone and marital therapy is very important. There are three issues to deal with:
1. What led to the person’s affair and working on self-care so it won’t happen again
2. How the spouse who didn’t have the affair is handling this discover
3. How the couple can reconnect after the loss of trust
These are very important issues to work through and couples are rarely equipped to handle them without some assistance. We’ve helped many couples navigate their way through these waters. If the partner who had the affair is willing to end the affair and work on the marriage the prospects for the couple are very good as long as they are able to do the work they need to do. We have steps couples can take to restore their relationships after an affair.
Dr. Wall has many blogs on affair issues. To check them out click here.
What if I’ve had an affair and haven’t told my spouse?
The most significant thing about an affair is the secrets. Without secrets affairs wouldn’t happen. If secrets continue, it is very difficult to feel a person is genuine and close. We can help in this process.
Dr. Wall addresses this problem directly in a blog. You can see it here.
What if I suspect my spouse has or is having an affair?
The problem with affairs is secrets. The problem with snooping is secrets! Most people don’t tell their partner they are snooping. Secrets by either spouse is a problem. If one person is having an affair that is one problem. If one person is snooping that is another problem. Accountability is important, but accountability is NOT snooping. Call us. We help sort out the difference so that you can build trust together.
