What if one of us wants to leave?
In certain circumstances, a little space can be a part of a partner’s healing. However, without assistance, separation often leads to divorce. Separation is a difficult thing to manage even with marital therapy. Without assistance, separation can prove fatal.
There are two kinds of separation:
a. Separation to work on the marriage
b. Separation to divorce
Most people are only aware of separation to divorce so they are very threatened and assume the worst about separation. We can help you navigate separation so that it works for you instead of causing you more marital trouble. CALL US IF AT ALL POSSIBLE BEFORE YOU SEPARATE. If you have already separated we can still help, but the process will be a little more difficult.
Dr. Wall has addressed this issue in a blog here.
What if one of us has already filed for divorce but we both want to work on the relationship?
Our experience indicates that not everyone who files for divorce wants to get a divorce or ends up in a divorce. People file for divorce often change their minds or didn’t even intend to divorce from the beginning as they tell us they were just trying to get their partner’s attention that the relationship is in trouble. Often the one who files is still ambivalent about divorce and hoping that taking some action will give them a sense of peace that doesn’t come. We have been able to help many couples stay together even after they’ve filed.
What if we’ve already separated, but still want to work on the relationship?
Give us a call! Often during separation people realize things they didn’t before.
