A Common Fear:
Recently, there has been some discussion (here) amongst therapists and marital researchers about how sometimes therapy leads to divorce. Counselors not trained in marital therapy or who have a negative view of marriage from the get-go, may steer their clients to “listen to their feelings” or “do something for yourself.” They may inadvertently or intentionally encourage their clients to consider divorce in order to be happy. Our opinion is that divorce has it’s own pitfalls and seeking divorce in order to be happy is not the right reason to divorce. Happiness is nebulous and difficult to attain and should not be sought for it’s own sake. Happiness is the result of right choices. Certainly, we help clients think through their options. But we also help them look at things they might have missed or look at things differently.
To see Dr. Wall’s philosophy of marital therapy see here.
