What if we aren’t married?
Today there are literally millions of couples living together who are not married. Most of these, we believe, are living together because they have experienced or have seen married people hurt each other and their children through divorce. It is often a fear of getting divorced themselves that keeps people from getting married. We understand this fear because we see the ravages of divorce in therapy regularly.
If you are living together and not married, we are not going to beat you up about that and tell you you are bad people. We will help you get along better with your partner so that you can feel better about the relationship and more hopeful so that marriage does not seem so threatening. When cohabiting couples break up it can be even more painful than when married couples divorce. A break up is a break up regardless of levels of commitment. If love and sexuality have been shared together, cohabitation does not take away the pain of the relationship failing. In fact, the uncertainty of the relationship, because of the lack of commitment, can add to the feeling of insecurity in the relationship which often prohibits couples from experiencing the love they so much desire.
Check out Dr. Wall’s blogs on this topic here.
