What if one of us wants to leave?
In certain circumstances, a little space can be a part of a partner’s healing. However, without assistance, separation often leads to divorce. Separation is a difficult thing to manage even with marital therapy. Without assistance, separation can prove fatal.
There are two kinds of separation:
a. Separation to work on the marriage
b. Separation to divorce
Most people are only aware of separation to divorce so they are very threatened and assume the worst about separation. We can help you navigate separation so that it works for you instead of causing you more marital trouble. CALL US IF AT ALL POSSIBLE BEFORE YOU SEPARATE. If you have already separated we can still help, but the process will be a little more difficult.
Dr. Wall has addressed this issue in a blog here.
What if we’ve already separated, but still want to work on the relationship?
Give us a call! Often during separation people realize things they didn’t before.
What if one of us has already filed for divorce but we both want to work on the relationship?
Our experience indicates that not everyone who files for divorce wants to get a divorce or ends up in a divorce. People file for divorce often change their minds or didn’t even intend to divorce from the beginning as they tell us they were just trying to get their partner’s attention that the relationship is in trouble. Often the one who files is still ambivalent about divorce and hoping that taking some action will give them a sense of peace that doesn’t come. We have been able to help many couples stay together even after they’ve filed.
What if I’m divorced? Can you help me?
The process of divorce is one of the most painful of experiences whether or not a person pursued the divorce. Some have said that divorce is even more painful than having a spouse die, because at least if the spouse died, a person realizes it was not his or her fault. Divorce always carries with it the might-have-beens. This is tough to deal with alone. We can help people heal from this so that they can face their next relationships with more dignity. Unfortunately, many people who divorce don’t get the help they need and get into another relationship too soon or before they have changed personally. They end up doing the same mistakes a second time. Research indicates that second marriages are more likely to fail than first marriages and third marriages are more likely to fail than second marriages. Doing the work you need to BEFORE you are romantically involved, will help insure your later marriage against possible failure.
To see Dr. Wall’s blogs on healing after a broken relationship, click here.
