Thriving Couples Blog

By Dr. Bing Wall, LMFT

Dr. Bing has been a marriage therapist in the Ames and Des Moines area for over 23 years. He began the Thriving Couples Blog to help couples to not just to survive their marriage but to thriving in their marriage. For over 10 years, Bing has written hundreds of articles about relationships, commitment, communcation, building trust, dating, sex, and what it takes to have a wonderful and fullfilling marriage.

Dr. Bing doesn’t hold back though. He is a big defender of taking responsibility for your own life and to not use the victim card as a way to justify treating your spouse unkindly. Having a thriving marriage is going to be hard work, but it is meaningful hard work and is worth it in the long run. So, take some time to read through the many articles throughout this site.

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Part Four: Dating and Vacation Ideas in Summer: Planning VS Spontaneous; Resurrecting a Rainy Day

One of the main reasons I became a marriage therapist is because my marriage is one of the things I’m best at! In thinking through my gifts and abilities and what do I have to offer the world, I kept coming back to the simple truth that my marriage was one of the best blessings in my life . . .

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Part Three: Dating and Vacation Ideas in Summer: Planning VS Spontaneous; Example: Volga River and Decorah, Iowa

On an earlier blog this summer I posted about planning your vacations to be spontaneous. This takes the planning spouse and the spontaneous, go-with-the-flow spouses’ strengths into consideration. Vacation is a time to reconnect, to chill, to replenish your spirit, create memories . . .

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The Real Tragedy of the Supreme Court’s Blasphemy About Marriage

Other than 9/11, the saddest moment in my adult life was seeing the other day the White House festively, triumphantly, lit in rainbow colors, like the President of the United States was give God the finger in a huge mocking way. Psalm 2 came immediately to mind. I shudder to think our blatant disregard for God’s created . . .

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Part Two: Dating and Vacation Ideas in Summer: Planning Vs Spontaneous

Over and over I’ve heard couples say about each other, “We’re not compatible. One of us is spontaneous and the other likes to plan. Those two just don’t get along. We’re just so different.” Well, hello! Yes, we are different. This would be a good thing! Nevertheless this idea that “We’re not compatible” is a sad . . .

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Part One: Dating and Vacation Ideas in Summer: Road Trip In Iowa: Planning vs Spontaneous

Now that the weather has warmed up it’s time to get out and about and experience your area, wherever you live. For generations now couples and families have taken weekend road trips in their car or motorcycle as a way to relax and spend time together. I remember as a child riding in the backseat with Grandpa . . .

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