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Dating Idea: Dr. Bing Breaks World Record On Cheap Date Idea!!!

There’s a simple principle in life as well as in marriage that you reap what you sow.  One of the most common excuses I hear from couples regarding why they don’t spend time alone together is they can’t afford it.  So they don’t spend time alone, unwisely giving all their energies to their children, and one day they wake up, and, wouldn’t you know it, they don’t like each other.  Who didn’t see this coming?  Small little behaviors add up to a life.

As Charles Dickens wrote in David Cooperfield:

Trifles make the sum of life.*

But after my cheap date with my wife last Friday night, not having enough money is no longer an acceptable excuse.

Actually, it wasn’t my idea at all.  Mary Sue brought it to my attention.  I go, you’re kidding?  You’re serious?  We usually go out to dinner on Friday night.  Usually.   Not always.  For decades we’ve done this.  DECADES.  My mom and dad have been married for SIX of them.  We’re headed for FOUR of them.  Yes.  They do add up!

I go, cool.  Sure, why not.

It was freezing out the day she suggested it.  Got down to 10 degrees.  Below zero with the windchill if you were buck naked and had just gotten out of the shower and were standing outside in the wind.

McDonald’s is selling a second Big Mac for the price of the noon temperature from the day before, she says, and it’s the coldest day so far.

You want to go to McDonald’s for our Friday night dinner date?

Sure, why not. It’d be fun.

I didn’t even know you liked Big Macs.

Sure.  I like them.

I’ve been married to you 36 years and never knew my wife liked Big Macs.

Never.  Never knew.  After 36 years.

Sometimes clients tell me they worry about what you talk about when you are married all those years, like there’s an expectation it’d be boring or something.

I’ll tell you what: Tim Tebow!  They had a very cool article about him in USA Today that I’d read earlier that day online and told my wife about it and I’d even blogged about it and McDonald’s had a copy of that very same USA Today laying around the place and she read the article while she munched on her Big Mac and we talked about it and we marveled that there’s actually a 24-year old out there that a lot of people admire and wouldn’t it be nice if there were other 24-year olds that were known for something besides beer and playing video games and we went home and cuddled on the couch under a blanket with the Kyddie on our lap and we watched UNI beat Missouri State with 2 seconds left in the sloppiest ending to a basketball game we’d ever seen and during ads we flipped over to the Diners, Drive-ins and Dives and lusted after two different ways to make fried clams at a Dive in Maine and I told my wife I could fly there and eat those clams and fly home and be happy.  And she laughed.

Twelve Cents.  I took my wife out for 12 cents.  Well, 7 Bucks if you figure the Big Mac meal and the hot fudge sundae we split.  I had to have the nuts on the side.  She doesn’t like McDonald’s nuts on her Hot Fudge Sundae.  I knew that, but I’m not sure why.  She told me to open up the package and put them on my napkin.  Napkin?  You’re a nurse.  She’s never told me to put my food on a napkin in a restaurant.  Ever.  My wife likes Big Macs and she’s Okay with me putting my McDonald’s Hot Fudge Sundae nuts on a napkin?

Who’d a thought?

12 cents.  The entertainment was free.

$7 if you count the whole date.

No more excuses.  Excuses add up to a life someday.


*Found in Chapter 53.


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Dr. Bing Wall is a therapist specializing in marriage and relationships and issues facing single adults with a practice in Ames and Urbandale, Iowa.  To set up a time to see Dr. Wall click here or call 888-233-8473.  For more information about Dr. Wall click here.

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