Brad Pitt’s Children Want Him To Be A Man
Here at ThrivingCouples we don’t often comment on Movie stars’ lives and choices. One reason is the amount of coverage many of these folks get is simply obnoxious. However, a quote from Brad Pitt I read today simply had to be commented on.
As many of you know, Brad Pitt is in a relationship with Angelina Jolie and they have six kids together. For various reasons, this couple has chosen not to get married.
However, it looks like they might be having a change of heart. Why?
As Pitt told CBS News “their children were putting pressure on them, which caused him to reconsider his earlier position. ‘It means something to them,’ he said. ‘We will [get married] someday, we will. It’s a great idea. ‘Get mommy a ring.’ ‘Okay, I will, I will.'”
Did you get that? Their kids want Pitt to man up and get mommy a ring.
The news here is not that Pitt is tempted to be a man. The news really is what the kids want. Marriage is not just a great idea simply because it means something to the kids. It’s a great idea because it means something in reality. All the kids are doing is simply being aware of what is obvious, even if their parents have forgotten about it.
The kids are seeing that a ring signifies something fundamental for a thriving family: Commitment. What they are seeing is that marriage is not simply a piece of paper, but a personal-affirming action whereby a husband and wife foreswear all others.’
What the kids desire is for their dad to say to their mom (and vice versa), ‘I will love you till death due us part.’
Without the ring, all they hear is ‘I love you until the next gal comes along or until I am bored.’ Without the ring, all the kids hear is ‘I am committed to you until I am not.’
But let’s be clear here. It’s not just the ‘ring’ the kids’ want. They don’t just want their parents to get ‘engaged.’ To give a gal a ring with the idea that someday you will get married is still not the kind of commitment children desire their parents to have. As Dr. Bing once told me, ‘an engagement without a date is not really an engagement.’
If you have kids you should know this. If you promise them a bike, one of the first questions they ask is ‘when?’ If you say, ‘I don’t know . . . sometime.’ They will normally say, ‘so you aren’t going to get me a bike?’
Oh, the simplicity of children. How often they reveal our nonsense. Pitt’s children have just revealed the nonsense of believing cohabiting is as good as marriage. In reality, cohabiting is just playing the part.
Acting is not being.
Brandon Wall is a Counselor in Cedar Rapids, Iowa: http://www.cedarrapidscounselingcenter.com/
Dr. Bing Wall is a therapist specializing in marriage and relationships and issues facing single adults with a practice in Ames and Urbandale, Iowa. To set up a time to see Dr. Wall click here or call 888-233-8473. For more information about Dr. Wall click here.