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Mourning Marriage Defined by Man, Not By God

I read of President Obama’s announcement he was supportive of making marriage between same genders the law of the land because they “love each other” with sadness.  And fear, too.

If you give rights to evil, goodness is snuffed out.  All of our rights can’t be met.  One percent may be practicing this type of lifestyle.  Even fewer will take advantage of it and “marry” each other.

But what about the person who believes that marriage was ordained by God from time immemorial to be only between a man and a women, the uniting by God of complementary genders, one of each, making a whole, becoming one flesh and that there is no such thing as a “marriage” between the same genders because they are not complementary?  They are the same.  They don’t have sex organs.  They can’t have sex.  Sex means difference.  The same genders have no difference.  So they aren’t having sex.  They are doing perverted things.  It’s not about rights of a very small minority.  It’s about normalizing evil and silencing good.

What about the teacher that didn’t believe he can in good conscience teach that evil is good?

Or the parent that didn’t want his or her child to learn in public school about this type of perverted lifestyle who is told that this is sanctioned by the government and the schools need to teach what the law says?

What about the Christian Camp that refused to host a same-sex wedding because they believe it would be immoral to do so?

What about the Christian adoption agency that believed they cannot in good conscience let two same gender people who are supposedly “married” adopt a child?

What about the graduate student who refused to counsel two people of the same-sex, even though she referred them to another counselor?

What happens then?

The teacher is fired.

The parents’ requests get ignored.

The camp closes.  The adoption agency closes its doors.

The Christian counselor is kicked out of school.

And the courts approve all of this because same-sex marriage is not about rights.  That’s a ruse of the devil.  It’s about normalizing evil and silencing the voice of good in the land.

David wrote 3000 years ago:

The wicked strut about when vileness is honored among men.*

Obama’s statement promotes vileness.  A new form of bullying has arisen: Thou shalt not commit intolerance, except the intolerance of those who believe evil is still evil (for samples of see here).

Some technical points:

– Same-sex people can’t be joined.  They are the same.  There is nothing to be joined.  They don’t fit.  They aren’t complementary.  They are like the same poles of a magnet, repelling each other.  Quoting Andrew Walker:

Same-sex marriage does not exist and it never will exist.

– Marriage is not defined by love or man or the courts or your whim.  Marriage is defined by God.  What God hath joined.  Two people of the same gender can’t be joined.  God certainly is NOT joining them.  God is not tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone.

– It is not “orientation.”  It’s temptation.**  Temptation is to be fought.  “Flee youthful lusts,” the Bible says.  This would be at all times in all circumstances no matter what age or gender you are and no matter what type of temptation it is.  To say that this type of lust is not a temptation and is instead a normal way of life that the government is going to bless and by default, promote, is a sad, sad day for America.  You can’t promote good and evil at the same time.  As Andrew Walker writes,

Constitutionally, a mess is brewing. To date, I can recall no formal compromise that would simultaneously affirm same-sex marriage and religious liberty.

– How is it that of all the vices that are denounced in the Bible as being hurtful  and to be avoided at all costs (murder, stealing, greed, sex with animals, incest to name a few), this one particular vice is given a pass and is defined away?**

– If we’ve rejected the Bible and God on this deal and “Love” is the measure of all things how about 3 people loving each other?  Why stop at two?

I agree with Franklin Graham’s (Billy Graham’s son) public statement released last week:

May 10 2012 by Billy Graham Evangelistic Association

CHARLOTTE – Franklin Graham, president and CEO of the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association issued the following statement in response to President Obama’s statement in support of same-sex marriage:

“On Tuesday my state of North Carolina became the 31st state to approve a constitutional amendment defining marriage as being between a man and a woman. While the move to pass amendments defining marriage is relatively new, the definition of marriage is 8,000 years old and was defined not by man, but by God Himself.

“In changing his position from that of Senator/candidate Obama, President Obama has, in my view, shaken his fist at the same God who created and defined marriage. It grieves me that our president would now affirm same-sex marriage, though I believe it grieves God even more.

The institution of marriage should not be defined by presidents or polls, governors or the media. The definition was set long ago and changing legislation or policy will never change God’s definition. This is a sad day for America. May God help us.”

A sad day indeed.  Just in time for Mother’s Day.


For examples of what happens when same-sex marriage is adopted see:

Massachussetts (Under Governor Romney’s watch!)

North Carolina


*Psalm 12:8

**My thanks to Tim Wilkins for the idea of temptation vs orientation and that this temptation is not to be singled out.  See his comments here and his website here.


See these other blogs on this topic:

There’s No Such Thing As Anal Sex

Lessons on Marriage and Life I Learned This Weekend

An Open Letter on Homosexual Temptation and Marriage

Iowa Supreme Court Math

See also his podcast series on:

The Sexuality of Life vs. The Sexuality of Death


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