Thriving Couples Blog
Dr. Bing’s Comments on Quotes (010): A Test … Who You Are In Secret
“Be nice to the janitor.” Random online comment of a reviewer of Jordan Peterson’s "12 Rules for Life" The last week I’ve been reading Jordan Peterson’s 12 Rules for Life and also read a few of the online comments of reviewers. A lady reviewer shared her mother’s...
Dr. Bing’s Comments on Quotes (006): Learn Where You Live
“It is the glory of God to conceal a matter; to search out a matter is the glory of kings.” King Solomon, 1100 BC in Proverbs 25:2 ESV Many clients over the years have commented to me that my blog on Living as Roommates was really creepy, like I had been observing...
Dr. Bing’s Comments on Quotes (004): Generosity vs Keeping Score
“Not that she and Curdie ever thought of how much they worked for each other: that would have spoiled everything.” George MacDonald, The Princess and the Goblins, 1872 The “she” in this story is Curdie’s mother. Curdie is the boy miner who rescues the Princess from...
Dr. Bing’s Comments on Quotes (003): In Praise of Male-Female Differences
“Where there is a withdrawn or silent man, there is usually a critical woman.” Steven Stosny and Patricia Love, How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It First off: this quote is a bit unfair. There are certainly men who simply aren’t chatty, no matter...
Dr. Bing’s Comments on Quotes (002): Dedicated to Rev. Jim Froehlig. Mentor, Friend, Example, Colleague, Pastor
By Dr. Bing Wall, LMFT “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” Proverbs 12:15b There are two chains in the link of life: learning from the previous generation and giving to the next. This is one of the great joys of family: learning from your parents...
Dr. Bing’s Comments on Quotes (001): The Backstory
By Dr. Bing Wall “He who has never seen darkness has never seen the sun.” K. Chesterton, 1917 There is a common belief that the proof of God’s non-existence is the presence of evil in the world. I’ve lost count of the times I’ve heard people say, “I can’t possibly...
Can Marriage Therapists Present a Point of View?
This is another blog in a series from old things I’m finding cleaning out files…past due, no doubt (click Here for the others). The quote below is left over from my dissertation back in my Ph.D. studies at Iowa State in the 1990’s! YIKES! In any case . . .
All My Husband Does Is Play Video Games and It’s Driving Me Crazy. Can You Help Us?
All he does is play video games. All she does is nag. Learn how to break the pattern and how Dr. Bing can help you thriving in your marriage.
Can You Help Us With Communication?
The number one complaint women bring to therapy is “My husband won’t talk to me.” I wouldn’t be surprised if the second complaint is, “I can’t say anything to him without him taking it personal and getting mad or shutting down.”
All We Do Is Fight. Shouldn’t We Just Divorce And Call It A Day?
Fighting is certainly no way to live. It wears people out. And we’ve all heard the argument, “It’s better to divorce than fight in front of the kids all the time.” Careful. Divorce seems like the easy solution, but it creates a whole new . . .